Every September, school starts again. A new teacher, new classmates, new books, new subjects. And every year, you think you won't make it through.
Each morning, as you prepare breakfast, you feel pulled into a whirlwind of things to do, to remember, to manage. Everything conspires against any plan. New problems and unfamiliar challenges keep surfacing, throwing everyone into a spin.
So how do you keep September and October from becoming overwhelming? How do you create small moments of newness that make family life pleasant and calm? Here are a few suggestions I'd like to offer—and I hope they work for anyone starting fresh, not just those going back to school.
Every morning when you wake up, open your window wide. Take a long look at that blue sky (or gray one) as the sun brightens it. Say to yourself: "I place this new day in your hands, Lord. Let it unfold as you wish. Help me hear your call in every moment."
Remember that your own nervousness, agitation, or peace spreads to everyone else in the house. I find it so comforting—at 7 a.m.—to hear a mother singing calmly from a nearby window as she gets ready. Every morning she finds the strength to share a cheerful little song with her family. It seems like the perfect tonic for the hours ahead.
Some mornings, leave warm croissants on the breakfast table. Or a slice of homemade cake. A good sandwich. Toast with ham. Small surprises matter.
Midmorning, go to the hairdresser. Don't put it off. There's something wonderful about being groomed, taking time to relax, feeling put-together.
Around 11 a.m., after you've planned groceries for lunch and dinner, call Carla—or Francesca if Carla's not available. Spend some time together. Share what's on your mind. Talk about that book she recommended.
Sign up again for your twice-weekly gym class, like you did last year. It helped you in every way—body and spirit.
Plan an evening out with your husband. A film, a concert, a play. Your children will see how good it is for parents to step away together and enjoy something new.
Tell your community leader that you'll prepare the prayers or songs for next month's Mass. Even if it stretches you, stay calm and ready to help.
Ask Angelo's mother if she needs you to take him for a weekend. There's nothing quite as good as being asked for help—and offering it to someone who's worn out.
I'm sure you and your families can think of many more things to add to this list. Make that list together—with your husband, your children, other parents. The important thing is not to feel alone. Keep one hand raised toward that patch of sky you looked at this morning, and the other open, ready for anyone who needs to hold it and feel safe, at least for a day.
Happy new year, and good luck!