Just Another Day

Just Another Day
Massimo (photo from Ombre e Luci archives)
Archival content: this article was published more than 20 years ago. The language and content reflect the sensitivities of the time.

His mother says:
"Christmas is beautiful, but for me it's just another day because I'm alone with him. Massimo is sad because his father left us two years ago.
I can't talk to him the way his father did. Massimo keeps waiting for him to appear suddenly, the way he used to, to cuddle him: 'Beautiful boy, you've got blue eyes!' Massimo would laugh and wait for him to make him laugh again and again with his jokes. Now I look at his photograph, above Massimo's big wheelchair, and I want to say to him: 'You take care of it! Pray to the Lord to give me the strength to care for him in the years ahead.'
I found good help, because alone, with all the aches of old age, I couldn't manage. A couple from Ecuador lives with us; they're affectionate and try to be there for us. But at Christmas they may go to lunch at a sister's place. So the two of us will spend that beautiful day hoping for a visit—maybe a grandchild, or a friend from Fede e Luce. You see, people my age are all in heaven now. I'm the only one left. I put my trust in the Lord. I always tell him, 'Whatever you will.'"

Massimo is 41. His mother Rossana is 71. I picture them again, as if in a film, the three of them bound together by this great, all-consuming love for their son: they present him as a treasure, they interpret the sounds that accompany his deep, mysterious laughter. They know when he's tired, when he's hungry or thirsty; they're moved to tears when he grows excited because someone sings a song he loves.
When Rossana goes shopping and Massimo gets a bit restless, the clerk takes him in hand, wheeling him out of the store—all those good things excite him—and heads toward the ramp that leads to a church. By now she knows, from hearing his mother tell it, that Massimo has a special love for entering a church, for the silence and the mystery of that presence, which he understands better than any of us.
One day Rossana joked with me: "If he had been well, I think my son would have become a priest!" Certainly Massimo, in his family, has proclaimed that Love which his grandparents lived fully with him and for him.
Someone will visit him at Christmas, this boy who has grown a little sadder since his father is gone—to speak for a while with his brave mother, for whom Christmas should be more than just another day.

Mariangela Bertolini

Mariangela Bertolini

Born in Treviso in 1933, teacher and mother of three children, including Maria Francesca, Chicca, who has a severe disability. She was among the promoters of Faith and Light in Italy. She founded and…

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